In Will’s Room

Sometimes as I look back on these journal entries, I am struck by how wonderful our boys were together. Don’t get me wrong.  I knew they were caring and kind to each other then and I see how important they are to each other now. But in this journal entry, Michael is plopped down on the floor in Will’s room, building his Lego set with full access to Will’s lego drawers, which Will and I sorted by color.  That, my friends, is trust.

If you are lucky enough to have kids who want to have a positive relationship, do everything in your power to foster it.  Michael was respectful of Will’s things, but if he had dumped out all the Legos, you better bet that I would be putting every Lego back in place and Mikey would be helping me to the best of his ability. Michael would have been asked to apologize (in whatever way he could) and I would explain what happened and that we had fixed everything.  In addition, Michael would have been playing with Legos in a different space next time.

When trust is given and that trust is honored, a stronger sibling bond is built. If your child makes a mistake or does something wrong (even if they have special needs), help them to make it right. Siblings are forever.