Holiday Plans

There’s a great scene in the movie ‘Forgetting Sarah Marshall.’ Paul Rudd’s character is trying to teach Jason Segel’s character how to surf.  He keeps saying, “Do less.” This finally progresses to Jason Segel’s character just lying on his surfboard in the sand and Paul Rudd’s character says, “Well, now you’re just doing nothing.”

The holidays get hectic fast.  There are schedule changes, class parties, spirit days at school, family visits, Christmas lights and music everywhere. It’s a lot for our kids…and for us too. The holiday season takes Manic Monday to a whole new level.

So, here’s an idea: have your children pick one holiday outing, party, or event that is very important to them and commit to it.  Everything else can get weeded out.  Either say you will make it if the kids are feeling up to it or just politely decline.  Carefully curate your holiday season so you and your kids can truly enjoy it.

Mikey likes his class parties, and he loves seeing Christmas lights. We found a light display in our area that’s a drive-through which made Mikey super happy. A crowded holiday house party might be great fun for Will so Dave and I might divide and conquer, one of us staying home with Mikey and the other heading off to the party with Will. Could a family member or babysitter help if you and your spouse really want to attend their office holiday party together? Thinking outside the box helps to make the season more manageable.

I think we tend to do things because we feel obligated.  A dear friend of mine had and Aunt who used to say to her, “There is no should, only want to and need to.”  That is some Yoda-level advice! I have carried this with me since she shared it.  I encourage you to unapologetically advocate for your family this holiday season and see if you find more joy if you ‘do less.’