Finding What is Good for Us

Couldn’t resist the opportunity to use Michael’s drawing of a spider and web so close to Halloween. This is another one of his creations using a step-by-step drawing guide.

And really, isn’t this the whole idea of life? Figuring out what is good for us where we can find it seems to be a pretty good guideline for choosing our own path.

For a truly full life, we want to help our kids choose what is good for them in a few key domains. 

Who?

Who is good for you? Who sees you for who you are, appreciates you and makes you feel good? How can you make sure those people are a part of your life long-term?

What?

What makes you happy? What hobbies, jobs, activities and pass times are good ways to fill your days.

Where?

Where are you happiest living? Is a small group home good for you or do you need a bigger community with more options? Is a warm climate good for your soul or do you thrive in a place where there is a full change/range of seasons? Are you a city mouse or a country mouse?

When?

When are you most at ease? Are you calmest when you can spend time out in nature? Do you like to get up early and tackle your day or are you a night owl?

How?

How do you make yourself feel good? How do you connect with others? What makes your heart sing and how can you make that the focus of your life.

Many of these questions won’t be conversations. They’re too abstract, but you can observe your child and pay attention to their tendencies and preferences to help them move toward an adult life that has all they need to be happy.