Extended Family

We would go to my Dad’s house out in the country every Memorial Day and Labor Day. I always found these gatherings so stressful. We’d get everyone in the car, drive to see family and then I would spend most of the day outside with Mikey or downstairs in a quiet room. Unless a family member came to sit with us, I barely even got to catch up with anyone. And if I did, it was always with half of my attention on Mikey.

It wasn’t my favorite, but as I look back, I’m glad I did it. Dave and I let Will and Mikey have a chance at a relationship with their great grandmother, their grandfather and extended family. I think these relationships are important and always worth the effort.

My Pro Tips

If your child doesn’t spend a lot of time with one part of your family, on the days you’re with them, keep the expectations low. Your child won’t automatically feel comfortable with people just because they are family.

As much as you can, try to let go of any judgements these family members may make about your special kiddo or your parenting. If they don’t know your child that well, then you’re likely not asking them for advice and if you’re not asking them for advice, you probably don’t care that much what they think.

Lastly, take some pictures. They’ll provide a happy memory and a way to practice identifying family members by name. The photos can help build familiarity during the times in between family visits.